a Father Role in a Child Life: Child Development Self-Image, Security or Father Wound!
A father role in a child lifeis crucial to a child’s growth and has profound bearing on the social, emotional, and intellectual development of a child especially self-image and security. As the priest of a home, the father has a mandate to bless his children by waking up their spirit by speaking blessings, words of encouragement to them – also role-models, training and teaching children to walk in God’s ways – Generational Blessings. It is a father father role in a child life to establishe the identity and gives them significance. The father’s purpose to bring up his children in the Lord, leaving behind a legacy of righteousness. Children who grow up with fathers who stay involved in their lives enjoy all kinds of benefits:
- better school performance
- less trouble with the law
- better jobs and careers
- better relationships with others
- higher self-esteem
If the father does not do the above for a child, the child will have problems with self acceptance since their spirit man is asleep. Children will feel disconnected in life and with God. Children will also have identity problems and go looking for love in all the wrong places to fill that void, if in sex, drugs, etc.
A Father Role in a Child Life is Essential
Children can grow up with earthly fathers in the home but there are four negative scenarous which will affect your relationship with God and Jesus. How was your relationship with your earthly father! Did you know how you related to your earthly father affects your relationship with God?
Did you have The Authoritarian Father is more concerned with compliance than relationship. He insist being done his way. He is not interested in children’s opinions, desires or goals. He wants only obedience. Having this view of God usually motivates people to rebel instead of obey.
The Abusive Father destroys the person’s ability to trust because of deliberately inflicting pain, hurting them emotionally, mentally, physically or sexually. Usually a person who has an abusive father sees themselves as someone used than valued in relationships.
The Distant / Passive Father is one who rarely says “I love you”. He doesn’t share in joy or pain,
The Accusing Father is critical and judges every failure. He thinks this will motivate you to do better and to try harder. He rarely gives encouragement or affirms. This kind of father can cause people to view their heavenly Father as an angry judge who is never satisfied.
The Absent Father is one who is absent because of death, divorce, work or disinterest. The absent father is just not there and makes children feel abandoned and neglected by God as well.
a Father Role in a Child Life contribute to the modeling/development of good communication skills and trust or Father Wound.
Dads have a powerful influence on how girls and boys are far more likely to show eating disordered behavior, self-cutting, have low self-esteem, feel lonely, feel not accepted and suffer from depression .
A Father Role in a Child Life affects living in a dysfunctional home – Father Wound:
- feelings of unworthiness and insecure – needing attention from others to feel good about themselves
- feelings of depression and thoughts of suicide to escape the loneliness
- lack of self-confidence
- have issues with smoking, drinking, or use drugs
- needing approval from others to feel good about yourself
- a perfectionist person having unrealistic expectation of self and others, and being too hard on oneself
- tend to avoid or ignore responsibilities
- have a difficult to find what you’re feeling or express feelings
- tend to think in all-or-nothing terms (black and white)
- feelings of lonely even in presence of others
- it is it difficult for you to ask for what you need from others
- it is difficult for you to maintain intimate relationships
- you find it difficult to trust others
- you tend to hang on to hurtful or destructive relationships
- you are more aware of others’ needs and feelings than your own
- you find it particularly difficult to deal with anger or criticism
- you find yourself waiting for disaster to strike even when things are going well in your life
- avoiding conflict at any price, and will often repress their own feelings and opinions to keep the peace
- apprehension over abandonment by others
Boys Growing Up With Same Scenario – Father Wound
- Problems with the law
- Abusive to wives and children
- Jail sentences
- drugs and alcohol
- Bullying in school
Healing the Father Wound – Broken Heart
God loves you more than you know. He wants to give you what you never had if you will open yourself up to Him. He wants to go into the reservoir of that pain and abide, and turn it into rivers of love.
Psalm 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their wounds.
Romans 8:15 For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, Abba, Father.
by Traci Morin, Touch of God Ministry of Healing and Deliverance Servant and Ordained Minister of the Gospel of Jesus Christ